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My brother, Hussein Al-Nasrawi, sits in his bedroom with his MacBook in his lap, clicking away on the keyboard. Hussein has olive skin and lanky arms.
As he stares at his computer screen, he never cracks a smile; in fact, he doesn't smile very much in general. He logs onto the dating site OkCupid and begins answering some questions. Hussein knows everything there is to know about Disney.
He can hear a song on the radio and play it note for note on the piano. He is single, 22 years old, and autistic. Hussein lives in the Bay Area and recently decided to the more than 40 million people who are plugged into online dating.
Online dating can be an easier route for those who have trouble initiating conversation. Garry Burge is 41, lives with his parents in Brisbane, Australia, and was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder in Jeremy Hamburgh is a New York-based dating coach for both neurotypical people and people with disabilities.
Hamburgh also le workshops at Adaptations, a program through the Manhattan Jewish Community Center that teaches life skills to people with developmental disorders. The social stigma of ASD is something that Hussein and others grapple with regularly.
After a few hours of setting up his dating profile, Hussein shuts his computer and gets ready for bed, leaving his door slightly open. Even at 22, the dark still makes him anxious. Finch was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome in by his wife, a speech therapist. Online dating, she says, helps her get over her nerves. It might give them more of a chance. Hussein, though, has reservations about mentioning his condition to his potential prospects.
But year-old Leah Grantham took a different approach on OkCupid, opening up about her autism from the outset. But we can be a lot more honest about it when we are doing online dating. She said she doesn't limit herself to dating only on the spectrum, though. Characteristics of ASD include repetitive behaviors, communication difficulties like lack of eye contact, and coordination problems.
Some on the spectrum also lack a filter. Finally, he sends a message to a girl who catches his eye. While they are friendly, they show little to no personalization, a common pitfall when fishing for responses. Hussein knows that because of his brutal honesty, he is often unable to process why anyone else would be dishonest.
But building relationships online can be an important way for people on the spectrum to build up to in-person relationships by getting to know someone before anything progresses. Throughout his online dating experience, Hussein has worried about his lack of filter, trouble customizing interactions, and anxiety about trusting the wrong people.
Grantham, Burge, and Katz all agree that when it comes to dating online, autistic and neurotypical people alike face the same major hurdle: trusting someone else. So how can you expect someone with autism who is already poor at picking up on rules to succeed in a world that has a totally separate set of rules? While Hussein is slowly figuring out the nuts and bolts of online dating, each day is a learning process. Each message is a step in the right direction, not just for him, but for each person on the spectrum looking for a companion.
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