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Sycamore. It is the desire of the administration at Harvest Community School that high school families are in agreement and like-minded when it comes to the students and their desire to remain pure until marriage. Although the specifics on how each family chooses to direct their child in this area may vary, the goal is the same.
In order to better understand this goal, below are some practical explanations to Biblical courting. First, what is the difference between courting and dating, and is one more Biblical than the other? The best comparison between courting and purity vs intimate dating can be found on the Focus on the Family website entitled Boundless.
Scott Croft writes a simple yet Biblically sound teaching describing why courting is the best choice for Christians. Below are highlights from that website. Courtship always has marriage as its direct goal. What are the differences in these two systems? For our purposes, there are three broad differences between what has been called Biblical courtship and modern dating.
Biblical courtship has one motive — to find a spouse. A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct. To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Matthew ; Luke The Song of Solomon showcases the meeting, courtship and marriage of a couple — always with marriage in view.
Modern dating, on the other hand, need not have marriage as a goal at all.
Dating can be recreational. Yet where is the Biblical support for such an approach to marriage? There is none. The practical advice I give singles at church is, if you cannot happily see yourself as a married man or woman in less than one year, then you are not ready to date. The second major difference between Biblical courtship and modern dating is the mind-set couples have when interacting with one another. Modern dating is essentially a selfish endeavor.
After all, what is the main question everyone asks about dating, falling in love, and getting married? Will this relationship meet my needs? How does she look? What is the chemistry like? Have I done as well as I can do? Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship. We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church, giving himself up for her. That means loving sacrifically every day.
Biblical courtship means that a man does not look for a laundry list of characteristics that comprise his fantasy woman so that is every desire can be fulfilled, but he looks for a godly woman as Scripture defines her — a woman he can love and, yes, be attracted to, but a woman whom he can serve and love as a godly husband. Third, and most practically, modern dating and Biblical courtship are different in their methods. And this is where the rubber really meets the road.
In modern dating, intimacy precedes commitment. In Biblical courtship, commitment precedes intimacy. According to the current school of thought, the best way to figure out whether you want to marry a particular person is to act as if you are married and see if you like it.
Spend large amounts of time alone together.
Share your deepest secrets and desires. Get to know that person better than anyone else in your life. Grow your physical intimacy and intensity on the same track as your emotional intimacy. And if this pseudo-marriage works for both of you, then get married. But if one or both of you do not like how it is going, go ahead and break up even if it means going through something like an emotional and probably physical divorce. In the self-centered world of secular dating, we want as much information as possible to ensure that the right decision is being made.
And if we can enjoy a little physical or emotional comfort along the way, great. Clearly, this is not the Biblical picture. The process just described is hurtful to the woman that the man purports to care about, not to mention to himself.
And it clearly violates the command of 1 Thess not to wrong or defraud our sisters in Christ by implying a marriage-level commitment where one does not exist. In Biblical relationship, commitment precedes intimacy. Within this model, the man should follow the admonition in 1 Timothy to treat all young woman to whom he is not married as sisters, with absolute purity.
The man should show leadership and willingness to bear the risk of rejection by defining the nature and the pace of the relationship. He should do this before spending ificant time alone with her in order to avoid hurting or confusing her.
Within this model, both parties should seek to find out, before God, whether they should be married and whether they can serve and honor God better together than apart. The man should take care not to treat any woman like his wife who is not his wife. Of course he must get to know his courting partner well enough to make a decision on marriage. However, prior to the decision to marry, he should always engage with her emotionally in a way he would be happy for other men to engage with her.
In all these ways, a Biblical relationship looks difference from a worldly relationship. If this is done well, Christian women will be honored, even as they are pursued. Christian wives will be honored. And God will be glorified.
This information should assist families who are considering Harvest as a home for their student. Our desire is to come alongside the parents and assist in the spiritual growth and maturity of that student through prayer, study, apologetics and teaching a Biblical World View in all classes. By not allowing the physical and intimate relationships at HCS, we strongly feel the student has a greater chance of exercising his God-given talents in a safe and fun environment and therefore becoming stronger in her or Are dating and courting the same thing relationship with Jesus Christ.
A School With Distinctive Difference. Courting vs Dating It is the desire of the administration at Harvest Community School that high school families are in agreement and like-minded when it comes to the students and their desire to remain pure until marriage. The Difference in Mind-set The second major difference between Biblical courtship and modern dating is the mind-set couples have when interacting with one another. The Difference in Methods Third, and most practically, modern dating and Biblical courtship are different in their methods.Are dating and courting the same thing
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